Monday, February 22, 2010

First Few Years of Marriage

Two weeks ago 25 couples came forward to renew their vows of marriage. It was a very inspiring and awesome thing to experience. Overwhelming. Being somewhat newly married (22 months). I am no expert on marriage, but I have heard lots of stories and read a mountain of books on the subject. One of the things I read had to do with the first two years of marriage-


The couples who divorced within the first two years showed signs of disillusionment and were negative toward one another in the first two months of their marriage. It is a sign of trouble if a newlywed couple starts to have disillusionment within the first year. The couples who are still happily married are couples who were able to have positive feelings about their spouse in the first two years.

If you find yourself a bit depressed after your wedding, it's ok. It's normal. You've both been caught up in time consuming wedding preparations. It is a sure bet that once you don't have that stress to deal with, you will have a sense of loss. It's similar to the post holiday let down that many people experience.

The couples who divorced within the first two years showed signs of disillusionment and were negative toward one another in the first two months of their marriage. It is a sign of trouble if a newlywed couple starts to have disillusionment within the first year. The couples who are still happily married are couples who were able to have positive feelings about their spouse in the first two years.

If you find yourself a bit depressed after your wedding, it's ok. It's normal. You've both been caught up in time consuming wedding preparations. It is a sure bet that once you don't have that stress to deal with, you will have a sense of loss. It's similar to the post holiday let down that many people experience.


Some other advice from the experts-

Happiness starts within

Communication is the key

Celebrate Anniversaries

Have a date night

Don't expect someone to instantly change after the wedding

Don't have impossible expectations

Keep love alive

Enjoy time together


Marriage is a covenant with God. It is sacred. If you are thinking about divorce, please talk to someone before you go too far. Talk to a pastor or counselor before you start talking to a lawyer. Go in peace and go with God.

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